I am not photogenic. That is the most common objection we hear when we talk about our business. That word is so vague – I looked it up in the dictionary because I hear it so often, just to make sure I really understood it.
Photogenic – Attractive as a subject for photography.
That says a lot about the way we think of ourselves. I am not photogenic. I am not attractive as a subject for photography. People wouldn’t want to look at pictures of me.
My husband, Kevan, has been a photographer for six years.
Every once in awhile, he would take a picture of me and say, “I got a really nice photo of you today.” In anticipation, I would look at it, and insult him by saying, “I hate it. I look ugly.” Not a very nice thing to say to a photographer I realize now, but all I saw was an image of myself that I didn’t like. If you had asked me a year ago if I thought I was photogenic, I would have said no.
When Kevan began his interest in the glamour studio, I reacted almost angrily. My own self image issues had led me to the belief that trying too hard to look nice was just an exercise in vanity anyway, so why bother? As I learned about the process, though, I began to soften. I saw how physically transforming yourself can change how you perceive yourself. Feeling beautiful and acting beautifully are more strongly correlated than you think.
In my discussions with women about our business, I often hear them say, “Who would want a picture of me?” At the risk of over-sharing, I have to tell you about an exchange I had with my two-year old several months ago. I was getting out of the shower, and having seen me from behind, she said, “I like your bum, mum.” Now, my backside is nothing to write home about, but my two year old, in her innocence, saw beauty in me. I have heard several people say, “Your children think you’re the most beautiful woman in the world.” Why do we scoff at that and chalk it up to them not knowing enough about beauty? We are all good subjects of photography because someone who loves us will always want to look at a picture of us and admire it.
If you’re not convinced yet, I have one more story. I overheard my friend Shauntelle telling someone about Decoro a couple of months ago. She said, “I have a beautiful photograph of my grandmother when she was younger. I love looking at it. Just think of how your grandkids and great-grandkids will enjoy these photographs of you.” Your face is your face and your family loves looking at it. Do you look at pictures of your mom and think, “Wow, she is not photogenic. I really wish I didn’t have a photo of her.” Silly, right?
So, in response to, “I am not attractive as a subject for photography”, I say fiddlesticks! Our family and friends love having pictures of us. A beautiful photograph of you will never go unappreciated. And a great photographer can bring out the beauty in anyone – because it really exists in everyone.
“I am not very photogenic” – let us prove you wrong!
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