More to Life
I went to a chiropractor a couple of years ago for a solution to a painful back problem I was experiencing. After learning that I was a mother of 3 children (my youngest was 3 at the time) and that I was training for a Spartan race, the chiropractor said, “Women in this town think that they can carry and bear children and then launch themselves into intense athletic endeavours as if their bodies were the same as before pregnancy. It just results in injury.”
Or, how many times have you heard a woman praised for “bouncing back” after pregnancy, or for looking younger than her age? How many plastic surgery procedures and skin care products exist to help women look younger?
There is something in our psyches and in our culture that has a totally unrealistic expectation about “staying young” or not changing as time passes. If you don’t bounce back quickly after pregnancy or if you look 40 when you turn 40, you feel like you have failed in some way. I’m here to tell you that it’s absolute nonsense.
Our female bodies were designed conceive and bear children and if you’ve ever had a baby or seen a friend carry and deliver a child, you know that it is a huge physical demand. MOST women see the results of pregnancy on their postpartum bodies. The exceptions are the women who have no resulting scars, changes or challenges. We have be trained to think that those women are the rule and that our stretch marks, diastasis recti, extra pounds and leaky bladders are the exceptions. Simply not true.
And then there’s aging – something that we will all face if we are lucky. There are some people who experience aging at a slower rate and there are things you can do to maintain a healthy body, but we are all susceptible to the wrinkles, hormonal changes, reducing physical prowess, loss of eyelashes and eyebrows, etc. of the aging process. No one is exempt from this.
So what am I getting at? Am I just trying to depress you?
Heck no! My point is this: we all need to shift our perspectives on youth, body changes and aging. If we just accepted that body changes are inevitable and that we are all in it together, I think we would just let go and enjoy the beauty and the blessings that come with spending more time in our bodies: children and grandchildren, memories and experiences, and the privilege of being alive in this beautiful and complicated world. So, don’t waste any more time being disappointed that your body isn’t the same now as it was when you were 20. There is so much more to life and so much more beauty in you today than there was yesterday – it just looks a little different.
This amazing lady wanted to do a photo shoot to reconnect with herself after a difficult adjustment. She is beautiful in so many ways and I feel privileged to share these amazing photographs of her! Thank you, G!
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